Lately, as I have been reflecting on how I want the blog to evolve, how to balance my career as a pharmacist and my desire to evolve in the fashion industry, I’ve gotten to think a lot about image and its enormous impact on people’s perception of us, of me... Having this duality so present in my life allows me to know and deal with people from different spheres. I come from a health and scientific background. I associate with other young professionals from the business and finance worlds. And, I socialize and enjoy mixing with artists and fashion/entertainment related personalities. Ever since I started this journey, you cannot imagine how differently my image can be perceived and judged (because there is judgment unfortunately…) from one group of people to the other.
Most (not all!) of the young professionals I am surrounded with have difficulty understanding what fashion blogging is. They perceive it as a search for attention, du to a lack of confidence. They believe some of the looks are “too much” or even “inappropriate” for a woman in my position. I “shouldn’t look too sexy” because I am giving the image of a “superficial girl” and not one of an intelligent woman. You are automatically tagged “superficial” if you care more about your appearance than your typical gal. If you don’t fit the (not too tight) black pencil skirt and (buttoned up) white shirt look, you are not serious enough. Oh, and let's not talk about high-heel designer shoes! How vain! You would think open and cultivated young minds would think differently... Unfortunately not… Why? Why can’t a woman rock a daring look and still kick butt in the workplace? Why is it inappropriate to exude femininity and style in the office? Is it because your brain is on strike if you show some skin or a womanly shape? Or maybe that bright red lipstick seals your lips together and doesn’t allow you to speak up? Image… It all comes down to image… There is regrettably a limit to the kind of woman you can be if you want to be taken seriously as a professional. I’ve realized how much it affects courtship and relationships too. A lot of successful career oriented men are somehow bothered by a personal blogger. “Why is she doing this if it’s not for attention?” “How shallow to post pictures of herself.” “I don’t feel comfortable sharing my woman with the rest of the world.” "She looks hard to approach." Those are a few of the lines I have heard. When you think you are dealing with confident men…
Then you have the artistic crowd who takes a look at a fashion blog and instantly associates it with self-expression. The image they perceive is one of confidence and inspiration! And the blog and social media outlets are only the vessels of that. It is a window into your creative mind, which is something that is understood, valued and praised! Taking and posting pictures isn’t about promoting yourself but about sharing your experiences with others. Sharing your thoughts and aspirations isn’t about being egotistical but about reaching out to people and creating a discussion.
Why do I constantly have to explain what I am doing to my fellow professionals yet find myself brainstorming about new and creative content with my right-brained friends? Why am I considered superficial in one world and innovative in the other? Why can’t I just be strong, powerful, successful AND artsy, imaginative and feminine?
Why can’t I be seen for the real me…
Photos by Maria Kamisis
- High-low floral skirt from Foravi
- Black top from Simons
- Fringe necklace from Shop the 26th Look
- Black peep toe lace up suede and leather boots from Guess